With the development of reproductive technologies in the American (as, indeed, any other) society, the myths connected with this constantly arise and spread. Couples and loners, unable to get pregnant naturally, now have a sufficient number of different possibilities to have a baby if they have enough financial means and patience. In each case, a careful analysis of possible methods and an individual approach is necessary.

To prevent yourself from making the wrong choice, you need to know what is true and what is fiction.

Here are some of the most common myths about surrogate motherhood, IVF and adoption.


The child being born is biologically dependent on the surrogate mother.

Gestational surrogacy means that a woman carrying a baby is not his biological mother. Embryos created using eggs and sperm of biological parents are implanted into the uterus of a surrogate mother. In the course of its development, the fetus does not have and in no way acquires a genetic connection with the organism of surrmama; biologically, it is only associated with egg and sperm donors.

Surrogate mothers are exclusively women living in hopeless poverty, not having prosperity and another chance to improve their financial situation, but to bear children for wealthy parents.

The CEO of the world-famous surrogate motherhood agency Growing Generations Teo Martinez states that a woman, before becoming a surrogate mother, should have her own previous successful pregnancy, and the responsibility of the organization providing the use of the reproductive method is a rigorous selection based on the results of a thorough check for compliance with the extremely stringent requirements imposed on participants in a surrogate motherhood program. Theo Martinez says that women should be able to provide for themselves; his agency, for example, receives up to 200,000 applications a year, but only 1% of them are accepted for consideration.

Surrogate mothers earn more than $ 100,000 per pregnancy.

Many believe that surrogate mothers receive astronomical sums of money for their services. In fact, they generally receive between $ 25,000 and $ 40,000.

Carey Flamer-Powell, founder of the All Families Surrogacy agency: “The amount a surrogate mother receives depends largely on the place of residence, the availability of insurance, which could compensate for at least part of the costs required in the process of pregnancy and childbirth, and can range from $ 30,000 per child to $ 40,000 for twins.”


Insurance covers the cost of IVF.

The costs required to carry out all procedures aimed at achieving pregnancy, as a rule, are not covered by insurance. In this case, much depends on the legislative base of the state and the specific insurance company.

IVF is a guarantee of success.

According to the American National Infertility Association “Resolve” for most women, the success rate in each cycle is 20-35%.

Frozen embryos are less effective than fresh ones.

The topic is still being discussed in a professional environment, but recent research by scientists from the Australian University of New South Wales proves that the use of frozen embryos for IVF as effective as fresh.


Native mothers should remain anonymous.

Native mothers have the opportunity to determine for themselves how many and what kind of contact they would like to have with a child raised in a foster family. Often, some agencies even encourage mothers to choose the form of so-called “open adoption”.

Biological mothers can return the child at any time.

In some states, a waiting period is required (up to several days) after the birth of a child, after which it is possible to confirm the fact of adoption. Since the filing of legally executed documents for adoption, the child is recognized as a member of the family of the adoptive parents. After this, the return of the child to the biological mother at her request is impossible.


Based on "USA Today"

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