Lonely paralyzed Australian decided to create a family of his dreams and achieved this
An Australian man who was left paralysed after a freak accident has revealed why he decided to use a surrogate to have two children. Terry Pavlou, from Adelaide, was renovating a property and standing outside in the driveway with his father in 2005 when a wall came down on top of him. “Before I knew it I was completely covered in four tonnes of rumble and I couldn't lift myself out,” - told Mr Pavlou, who was just 29 at the time.
His father and his two brothers frantically tried to dig him out but they were unable to see him. “While that was happening I could feel my breath feeling short, and I thought that may have been because I was completely covered,” - he said. The men reached Mr Pavlou and managed to dig him out half way before his brother Harry attempted to lift him out and was shocked at what he saw. “He could see that my spine was pretty much popping out of the skin out the back there,” Mr Pavlou recalled, who was also suffering from ruptured lungs and several broken ribs. He also saw that his legs were twisted but couldn't feel a thing. “At the time I didn't think it was going to be a permanent thing. I didn't think much about paraplegia before that, my main concern was the breathing,” - he said.
Emergency services arrived and he felt his life slipping away, like he was going to pass out. At that point he discovered he had ruptured his aorta, the largest artery in the body, which is extremely dangerous and often ends in death. Mr Pavlou said doctors said he 'should have been dead after ten minutes' but he survived the ordeal and woke up in the intensive care unit where he was told he would never walk again. “My family was in there and I started to breakdown while my mother tried to comfort me,” - he said.
Mr Pavlou spent six months in hospital - including during his 30th birthday - and spent a great deal of time trying to get his head around the life-changing injuries he now faced. During that time he met a coach who encouraged him to get into athletics and after completing all his rehab, ended up competing in nationals where he placed third in the country for javelin. Mr. Pavlou spent the next few years getting back on his feet and after a breakup decided that he wanted to make his dream of a family come true. When he broke up with his girlfriend he looked into the possibility of having children, something he had always wanted. “During rehab I just about life and what makes me happy, and for me it was to have a family,” - he said, adding that he didn't want to 'wait to find love' to start a family. “It's really hard to let someone get really close to me and know what I go through every day,: -he said.“It could take me another five or ten years to find the right person so I started looking into surrogacy and having a family that way, and before I knew it I was in Thailand.” There he fertilised embryos and a surrogate was found for him. “At that time I was 39 and I was at the age where I was still fit and capable to have children and raise them,” - Mr Pavlou said.
Before he went to Thailand he met with a group of people who had gone through surrogacy internationally and a lot of them had been through one particular clinic. “By the time I came back the clinic told me I had two healthy embryos and my surrogate would be willing to carry both if I wanted that,” - he said.
The thrilled father-to-be flew to Thailand in 2015 to see his two children Angel and Nicos born and said it was one of the most emotional and wonderful experiences of his life. Although nervous initially of being a single father to twins, he took to it straight away and is pleased with the decision he made. With the twins' fourth birthday approaching in March he said they “work together as a unit”. “They're doing a lot more for themselves and they help me out now. They make my job easy,” - he said. Mr Pavlou has also had some help from his family, with his mother helping him out early on and assisting where she can now.
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Based on Daily Mail Australia